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Part of every human being are turning points that we tell ourselves will truly change our lives forever. If we take a quick look at the entire course of life, all these turning points begin to take place from birth, and end only at the very last station. When we don’t have a good time in high school, we tell ourselves that we will definitely be happy at the chosen college. We will be happy when we get our diplomas in our hands or when we get our first real job. We will become happy when we meet that right, perfect, heaven-sent person, and we will be even happier when we have children. What will make us truly happy is when we later change jobs that we no longer enjoy. When we realize that a partner is just not as perfect as we imagined in our ideal world at the beginning, we tell ourselves that we will be happy when we meet that Mr. or Mrs. Right. We will be truly happy when we get money for a new apartment or for that trip that will save us from all the torments of the real world. But happiness thus, for the rest of our lives, remains something that never really comes to us.

If humans didn’t keep challenging themselves and the goals we want to achieve, we would have died out as a race a long time ago. Constant stimulants are highly desirable, if not necessary, for society and the individual. Necessary for both personal growth and society. None of us wants stagnation, otherwise we wouldn’t be living this unique life we’ve been given. And yet, when did we lose the sense and just the right measure of what is necessary for human development, and what is only destructive?

The truth is that man is capable, both mentally and physically, of surviving in incredible conditions, which has already been proven by many scientists. In normal conditions, however, a person has his own needs, which, if they are not satisfied, have a strong impact on the individual’s existence. The already famous Abraham Maslow divided people’s needs into a pyramid system, where physiological needs – the need for sleep, food, water and breathing, are at the very bottom of the scale, and self-realization is at the top. Most people, however, are not satisfied with this highest and most important part of their lives, which is supposed to be the meaning of all of us.

The fact is that we do not know how to accept life as it is. The universe, god, or whatever form you believe to be standing above us, is always beckoning to us, no matter what we say. If we tell life that it is cruel and difficult, it nods to us and serves us events and people that confirm this. If we tell life that it is pure pleasure, beauty and love, it nods back to us and serves us such people and events that show us this all the time. Everything we give we get back, the basic laws of quantum physics simply cannot be tricked. The kind of energy we have, the kind of life we ​​live.

But then why does an existential crisis begin in the first place? When we think that an event, a single moment or another person can make us happy. That despite what we think, life does not have ready-made challenges for us, which we as individuals have to overcome in order to develop into the person we are ultimately meant to be. An existential crisis begins when we think that happiness is a destination that we arrive at and stay there until the end and forever. Yes, we don’t know how to accept life as it is. Happiness is just an emotion, an emotion in a mosaic of other feelings, where sadness, anger, jealousy and all the rest are hidden, but we push it aside.

That degree might make you happy for a moment, but emptiness will follow. If you expect that another person can make you happy, even greater emptiness and disappointment will follow. If you wait for a great opportunity, a new job or a new partner, you will soon be even more disappointed. Why is that? Because happiness is an emotion, a feeling inside us, which should be independent of all other factors. The feeling that follows the fact that in this moment, here and now, we are enough for ourselves and that it is enough to exist and breathe. People really don’t need much for these feelings of happiness, but we still throw all the conditions in front of us that must be satisfied in order for these feelings to follow. But in the end, we realize that they never really come if we just wait for them.

If happiness and satisfaction are already within us, another person can only add intensity to such feelings. If we are happy and satisfied with ourselves even before we lose those extra pounds, we will be even more happy when we really are. But if you say that you will be happy and start loving yourself only when you meet Mr. or Mrs. Right, at that moment you will realize that even here life is only sending you a mirror and an answer – you cannot get a man who will love you , if you don’t like yourself. And life offers us such answers again and again, when and how we grasp them, if at all, depends entirely on the individual.